When Mom is Pregnant

March 17th, 2008

If my baby was a boy, my three-year-old son thought “Mater” would be a good name. Luckily for the baby, it’s a girl. That same child is lucky he wasn’t a girl because his older sisters wanted to name him “Lolly”. I know people who were named by older siblings after “Curious George” and “Marsha” from “The Brady Bunch”.

My husband and I have chosen to tell our three children they are absolutely not naming the baby, and that’s final. But we have still tried to come up with a name they at least like. We’ve started calling her little Claire now so there will be no confusion when she’s born.

When you already have older children, it is really the family that is having the baby. It is important to make sure siblings are involved in the excitement and anticipation of the pregnancy. This helps them to feel a bond with the baby when it is born, and be less likely to feel replaced.

Sometimes I feel a little mauled by the older kids, but know it is important to let them feel the baby move. They love to give her (really my stomach) hugs and kisses.

Older children start to deal with changes from the time Mom becomes pregnant. Early in my pregnancy I was plagued with morning sickness. Sometimes I would run out of the room with no explanation (strange behavior for a mom). My son once followed me to the bathroom, then pretended to throw-up as well.

Other times I would spend long periods of time lying on the couch. I found it good to explain to them what was happening to me and that these things were a normal part of pregnancy. Knowing helped reduce their anxiety.

These things are just the beginning of changes to come. They range from sharing Mom’s attention to shifting beds and bedrooms. It’s important to start preparing children early and make the changes gradually so kids are not hit with everything at once.

For tips on helping get your big kids ready for a baby, visit our tips for siblings article in the pregnancy section of childnparent.com.

Happy pregnancy!

By: Megamom
Megan C. Wallgren

Entry Filed under: Pregnancy

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