Jessy’s Story

October 10th, 2008

I am a mom of 2 (almost 3) due November 17th, 2008   Yikes!  It’s getting close. I have an 8 year old, Bella,  and a 4 (almost 5 year old), Sophia, and I am having another little girl.  Her name will be Skarlet.

When I went from having one kid to 2 kids, I knew that it was going to be hard and it was.   Bella became very, very jealous of Sophia, and ever since she was born Bella has not been the nicest big sister.  I have tried explaining to her that she got just as much attention as Sophia did when she was her age, but she is still jealous and acting out and trying to boss Sophia around.

Part of the reason, I think, has to do with Sophia’s father somewhat coming around.  Bella gets very mad and sad and jealous.  Bella’s father didn’t see her at all until she was probably around 2, and for a few years saw her on Christmas and her birthday.  But for the past 2 or 3 years he hasn’t been around at all and I get so angry and I feel so bad.  I don’t understand how a father could just not care about his child enough to even call her once in a while, so I have had a hard time with Bella.  She acts out a lot!

So, in February I got married to a wonderful guy and we got pregnant. He is really excited.  He loves Bella and Sophia very much but I think he is super excited to have a child of his own.  The pregnancy was rough with morning sickness and the marriage was kind of in a shambles for a while but it’s getting better and I think everything will work out, but I do have some concerns with both kids when this baby comes.  I try and give my older kids as much as I can right now before the baby comes, swim lessons, alone time with each of them etc. but I still think there still will be issues.

I think they are excited about the baby coming but at the same time there will be times when Sophia is throwing a fit and she will threaten to hit my tummy and that really worries me.  I also have decided to home preschool Sophia so that we have our one on one time together while the baby is napping and what not, I am hoping this will help.

If any of you have any suggestions on anything or have been through similar things as far as jealousy, a father that isn’t around etc.

I would love to hear from you, I’m so stressed out over it all it would help to know that I’m not alone.

Thank you for listening,


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